seriously husbans

seriously i know this is about being a mom into world for me but i have to wonder how marriage is different them our parents or grandparents
First i have to get my vent out . i know my dh is working two job right now but really i work 50 hours a week ever week of the year or at least 50 , i do wash for me and two of the kids , all towels , blankets ect each week , all shopping , all bills and running a family stuff , 99.9 % house work . and lets see dog out of food (i did not know and i took two kids after i got off work to softball 45 minutes away got home at 9:30 . now i know he work 11 or 12 hours today but you think he stop and get the dog food as he knew i was out a ball field and have no time . and another thing he came down to get something and sit and watch tv in kitchen (this makes me lol ) leave the tv on hello he been doing this for a while now why no one in the freaken room . i just dont understand . if i did not have two tired , hungry dirty girls with me i would of stooped but instead dog at cereal tonight .
i have to give dh he is a great dad , always there for them , help tons when babies where babies hands on dad and all .but i have notice longer we are married 16 yrs he gets worst at this stuff . here another funny in our married so when we are home and say 5:30 rolls around and he notice i have not started dinner he will start to cook or say did you have anything planned then cook but if i am cooking it hands off . does not even think about it .
my mom waited on us kids and my dad hand and foot and worked full time . i said i would never do that and i dont but i wanted things more 50/50 is that wrong ? i do work from home so i can do more stuff and my job not really physical so am not saying 50 /50 have to be but 25/75 could be nice 80/20 lol . what you think? what your married like has it changed over the years . when we where first maaried and for the first few years i actual seen him clean the floor , bathroom , kitchen .now i am not sure he know where the mop is . how did this happen just easier for me to take over ? now i am stressing as 100 of his family and closest friends coming to our son graduation party and well a lot neeeds to be done before sat .
i could vent on but i wont we all not prefect i know i am not . and he never says a word about anything i do or dont do