Do you think we are doing to much for our children

when my children where little i always thought i was teaching them Independence but now as i have one leaving for college and another in high school . i wonder but my girls are 8 and 9 and look at them and dont want them to grow up so fast .want them to be kids and school there work . i mean they always have chores and things they help with , excepted to get good grade do home work , go to church , play sport ect . my oldest two do own wash , little ones put there away ,make there bed , help put dish away . As i look at my son i wonder is he ready to live on own (he can cook and shop) we tested this last year when we left him home for a week with money to buy own food and gas for the week . he say he ready . is it my anxiety as a mom ? part of this is coming from when i went to college i did it all on my own at 18 i march into the school applied , applied for aid ,filled out all paper work ect . my son on the other hand i did it all . he is going up to registration himself in a week he asked if i was coming i say no .. you can do it . they help him but if i could do it on line i would have have for him . is that wrong to want to be there for him ,help him on his way if he needs it ?it scary now i might see the mistake we made as parents now that our children are being adults .or i am hoping to see the good things we did do in them as they are adults .