Blood boils

blood boil where to start but i feel it ..
My middle daughter all upset over this play she doing and what the teacher want her to wear . I do understand dress code and if she needed a custom but she the narrative not a charter so why is this so hard . So i been talking to her for two day giving her ideas what to wear , what we have . no still stressed . willing to take her own money buy a new dress , find i go take her to look at dress, we don't find anything and she so worried about buying one and this "this teacher " not liking it omg she got her so up set and stressed about what to wear . i guess she told other that cannot wear this or that .. it so dumb but i feel for my dd. now we are at a poor school , many cultures and i just don't like this . it not the money but really the stress she putting on my kid, when at the store i am like it not a fashion show and you guys models it a play for 5th grades . ok off my rant but i am ready to let this teacher to have it .
Not making my blood boil my lovely son hehe i am not sure what to do remember his budget issue and well again this semester not passing one class . one hand i am so so proud of this kid ,he came so far and doing so well for all he has over came from a 4yr old with many issues . but a little part of me thinks he just does not apply him self fully but then as i am writing this i see it is his disability . so first budget what to do , i have talked talked and talked now what ? am i over steeping and he got to learn on his own ?i want his to have and do better then me ? learn more and do more ?
2nd his class well i guess he will need to do it him self he in college and 18 so what to do beside support him . he take 19 credits and i think it just two much . same last semester when he need to drop one class .