sports parents

Do sports keep kids out of trouble ? do they balance children life ? do they make them disciplined? motivated , over works, competition ? or does it cause stress , perfection , to much pressure ? i try really hard to balance my kids life with family , church , school ,sports and friends . i have two very perfectest children and i worried about the being prefect , they get prefect grades , have to be best at everything , both play a position that can win or lose a game .practice practice and practice to be that prefect pitcher .. it it all to much ..
another thought also do we spend to much on it ? my girls do clinics , camps own there own equipment ect ? where the line .. is there one ?
out of the next 30 days i only looked at June we have 5 nights , or days that don't have someone playing softball ... next year can be worst as we could have three playing on 3 different teams ..
we don't do any of these to make them better then anyone else , we don't do it to really make them better and would never do anything they did not want to do .. i have had long talks with my oldest daughter about if she ever want to quit i will support here .. would i be sad ? yes , would i think it was all worth it yes for sure , (1,000;s of dallors spent ) i think we fig last year how much we spent on softball one year on our oldest it was around 5,000 with out counting all the week end tournaments (that i am sure with out gas cost 100 or 150 plus usually two cars with a tank or two of gas och ......
why dont some parents let there kids play sports is it the kid or parents ? i have had friends so oh i forgot to sign them up . or how do you afford it .. it high on our list , we dont spend it at the bar (dont drink ) dont buy extra ,i drive older van ... cut other vacation out , dh cut fishing trips out .. kids first we only have them 18 years then we have to let them fly . as i am finding as my oldest leave for college in a few month (omg cry )
As a mom not a dad or coach i feel it should be fun , learning and teaching the kids the love of the game .. so it can be a life time of fun and playing . it does not matter what sport it is . but at time it heart breaking when they come from the field or car cryng ..feeling like they did not do good or blow the game . how do we handle this as a parent ,this is a life teaching moment.. do you cheer your team on even when it a bad game .
so when to much lets see we have i am sure 11 softball games friday , sat and sun this week end as all three girls are playing . we have 5 night off the whole month is that to much ? i am sure later tomorrow i will report more broken hearts or could be great cheer ..
we lost our first game today but my dd pitched a 4 pitch inning with 3 outs .. so that a good start but we lost ..