I want a normal Family

ok first kid what normal ? second i thought we where pretty normal family . We eat dinner together 5 plus nights a week , we go to church , my kids do extra activies . we are married have four kids and a dog . laughing . what normal that her new thing ! so tonight set her off as we are not normal as we where not eatting at 5:30 like we usally do and i asked if she get ready for basketball before sitting down with dinner and she flip why are we not a normal family like everyone else that eat a 5:30 then get ready for basketball . i really almost lost it . my oldest was a lot like this but i took it as part of his disorder and other issue . i never know other could not be so flexable . she also at that age phase no one likes me ... you yelled at me when you just said something to her no one yelling not even a raised voice . how i love preteen years .....